- - Is it - - -

Survey - AB/DL Practices - 5 - Significant Others

Sections: Basics - media (texts) - partners - coming out (texts) - needing diapers (texts) - significant others (texts)

Edit 11 December 2016: These results have been updated per the tenth year standards update.

The following questions explored some aspects of actually being in a relationship as or with an AB/DL.

43)Are you currently:

	N=884	%	Option
1	286	32%	married or in a domestic partnership
2	36	4%	engaged to become married or enter into a domestic partnership
3	85	10%	in a long-term relationship other than marriage or domestic partnership
4	79	9%	dating someone/"going steady"
5	52	6%	actively dating in general, but not dating someone in particular
6	262	30%	interested in a relationship, but not actively dating
7	84	10%	not currently interested in a relationship

44)How long have you and your current or most recent previous partner been close?

	N=875	%	Option
1	135	15%	under a year
2	128	15%	1 or 2 years
3	109	12%	3 or 4 years
4	112	13%	5 to 10 years
5	69	8%	11 to 20 years
6	107	12%	over 20 years
7	215	25%	no close partnerships yet

This section differed from others in the survey in that the 'skip' question was the second in the section. participants that have not yet had a close partner were asked to skip to the last question, #50.

45)Does your partner know that you are an AB/DL?

	N=870	%	Option
1	86	10%	Probably not. I've decided not to tell her or him.
2	22	3%	Probably not. I've decided to tell her or him, but haven't yet.
3	38	4%	Probably not, and I'm not sure what to do about it.
4	108	12%	Yes. It was clear from the start, due to how we met, etc.
5	246	28%	Yes. I took initiative and discussed it with her or him.
6	66	8%	Yes. A related topic came up, and I took the opportunity.
7	60	7%	Yes, she or he found my diapers, saw files on my computer, etc.
8	9	1%	Yes. She or he was told by someone else.
9	8	1%	I'm not an AB/DL.
10	227	26%	Not Applicable: No close partnerships yet.

46)Your partner:

	N=862	%	Option
1	73	8%	was already an AB/DL
2	128	15%	enjoys AB/DL activities after you introduced them to him or her
3	70	8%	participates in AB/DL activities but doesn't enjoy them
4	144	17%	is OK with AB/DL practices, but doesn't participate.
5	90	10%	is aware but isn't accepting
6	142	16%	probably isn't aware that you are an AB/DL.
	215	25%	(Not applicable per Q44=7)

47)In AB/DL games, scenes, and activities with him or her, which role do you most often play?

	N=865	%	Option
1	49	6%	Newborn/young baby
2	130	15%	Toddler
3	54	6%	Small child, before puberty
4	25	3%	Teen or older child (but not a caregiver)
5	65	8%	Adult (but not a caregiver)
6	3	0%	Sitter, nurse, teacher, or other unrelated caregiver
7	34	4%	Mommy, daddy, big brother, or other related caregiver
8	255	29%	We don't engage in AB/DL games,scenes, or activities
9	250	29%	Not Applicable: No close partnerships yet.

48)Do you do what you want in terms of AB/DL practices, or do you moderate them based on the wants of others?

	N=855	%	Option
1	251	29%	Moderate
2	252	29%	Moderate sometimes
3	137	16%	Don't Moderate
	215	25%	(Not applicable per Q44=7)

49)Have you been divorced?

	N=857	%	Option
1	541	63%	No
2	79	9%	once
3	15	2%	twice
4	7	1%	three or more times
	215	25%	(Not applicable per Q44=7)

50) What advice would you give to another AB/DL who was looking for someone special or just starting a relationship, or to a non-AB/DL who is in a new relationship with an AB/DL? (Optional)

Basics - media (texts) - partners - coming out (texts) - needing diapers (texts) - significant others (texts)

Email BitterGrey [mail]

Last Update: 11 Dec 2016| First Posted 3 Aug 2011

Do you have Questions, tips, suggestions, or other feedback?

This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-Share Alike 3.0 United States License. For online material based on this work, include a link to either this page, the AB/DL Surveys Project index, or the website's main index. For printed material based on this work, include a citation with one of those three URLs.